One out of hundreds
there’s your answer. there’s your answer right there. the latest incident is merely a straw that broke the camel’s back.
you don’t compare hundreds of incident with the next and say “Hum. Huh. I wonder which one is heavier and one that I should be talking about” when every other week you get another incident piled on you.
What you do, is you bundle them together in a folder, slap the latest incident on the front cover, give it a nice clickbaity title and throw it right at your boyfriend’s face.
“ENOUGH OF THIS SHIT” you yell at your boyfriend. You also punch his face.
“Why are you so mad all of the sudden?! I mean that time I gave you this huge abuse and you just took it, this latest abuse is nothing compared to–” says him.
“I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN MAD! Why do you think I keep shouting and giving you death glares and crying every time you hurt me like this?!”
Your minority community is currently in an unhealthy relationship with you. Either you dump her now, or risk getting backstabbed later. I don’t care how “rational” you try to explain to her, that breaking things aren’t good. If you guys keep bringing up each other’s mistakes, keep replaying your own arguments over and over, keep trying to be right. Nothing’s gonna ever change,
Final solution right now. Divorce. Break Up. Kill. Whatever it takes. Unhealthy relationship is cancerous.