anonymous asked:
I honestly don’t understand why people would think Lizzy being uncomfortable about you having relationships outside of her is “toxic.” The most important part of an open relationship is that everyone is comfortable with it. I’m not personally opposed to an open relationship but if my partner wasn’t okay with it, I wouldn’t go forward with anything, because that’s not fair to them.
They’re projecting onto me, is what they’re doing.
These people are obscenely selfish and if they were in a situation like I’m in, they would tell their partner to fuck off because they’re not getting everything they want. The kind of people for whom “Puts up with my shit” is a selling point.
Tumblr has a really big problem with socially maladjusted people glorifying how unhealthy they are. You see this in the way some people laughably post about being terrified of being in a social situation, or portraying their introversion as huddling under a blanket in the dark watching Netflix, or laughing about just how little sleep they get.
When I see people talk about how their depression makes it so they can’t take care of their body, my first question is almost always “Didn’t you take your meds? You know those are actually good, right?” Actually a lot of people don’t know that. Every time I hear someone claim antidepressants are “ableist” I want to hit them with something heavy.
I see these people all the time on this site and they sincerely worry me.
anonymous asked:
How do you feel about people saying you and Lizzy are #relationshipgoals or #marriagegoals?
I agree, but not for the reasons that many others would.
People think our relationship is a perfect heaven of no conflict, and that’s why it’s “Relationship Goals” for them. Tumblr users have a very warped idea of what healthy relationships actually are. Those same people are very quick to jump down Lizzy’s throat if they even suspect that I’m giving something up for her.
It’s ridiculous just how quickly y’all change your tune the moment it even slightly looks like there might be a blip on the radar.
My stalkers have previously opined that Lizzy doesn’t disagree with me in public, claiming that I might be controlling her. However, the reason she doesn’t is because when she does they jump on it with shrieks of “OMG SO TOXIC! SHE HAS STOCKHOLM SYNDROME!”
Just a month ago I completely tore into someone who claimed that Lizzy was a toxic partner because she refuses to let me (a polyamory woman) have other partners. What this person failed to grasp is that Lizzy doesn’t own me and if I wasn’t happy without multiple partners then I would have multiple partners. I wouldn’t have allowed Lizzy to put that restriction on me in the first place.
Me and Lizzy fight about things, and when people scream about how we’re relationship goals I tend to get worried for those people. Especially since they ONLY ever do it when one of us makes a post gushing about how wonderful the other is.
It worries me when people say this because I know what you think relationship goals are, and that makes me worried about you.